This is definitely one of the issues that trouble all women… how to keep a man interested within a marriage! We all want the happily-ever-after with love continuing to thrive with each passing year. In our fairytale hopes our reciprocal allure grows with each day that we are together but the truth around us is of couples in misery who are bored stiff with one another and whose relationships are either one of barely stomaching one another or of extreme anxiety. There is evidence of the same things in your relationship but your intuition tells you that there has to be more for your relationship then this…. so to keep a man interested what strategies should you implement?

1. Keep the playful teasing! Keeping love alive necessitates that you keep the thrill and joyfulness in your relationship fizzling and is there a better way to do this then to keep the lighthearted playfulness going. Our inner child never passes away (it can get quiescent but it’s always there hidden under all of lives concerns). What awakens the child inside him? What brings his inner child alive? Refresh your relationship by bringing this out on a regular basis!

2. Stay fascinated with him! The concerns of daily living have a way of crushing any relationship as each person focuses on their own issues. Keeping love alive requires that you make a strenuous effort to keep interested in what is going on in his life. Not just symbolic interest but authentic interest. Be in the know about what is happening in his office, relationships etc. you should be able to talk about everything and anything with each other. Remember that men do not like to hash over every little thing so give him the freedom to talk about what he wants to talk about and when he wants to talk.

3. Truthfulness is king! You need to be able to discuss all your key issues with each other.. Keeping love alive requires that you are open to one another so that you are both happy with each other since you are not holding grudges or resentfulness toward each another. Lying is a hindrance to a close relationship. Of course there are things in your past that you may not want to bring up as they will do nothing for your relationship.

4. Make time for each another without fail! To keep a man interested obliges you to set aside specific time for each other. Talk to each other each day for at least 30 minutes. Also programme a date night once a week and a weekend away every three months where you spend time with just each other doing something you both enjoy. The focus of this time is just each other and connecting again to one another meaningfully.

5. Keep the adventures going! Don’t get stuck in the regular routines of life but be open to new experiences that you can both enjoy. To keep a man interested you need to let your innovative side loose and make happy memories that cement the glue that joins you together.

6. Reciprocated admiration! Cultivate a culture of mutual admiration. Withstand the temptation to presuppose the worst of him as that will corrode your love for him. If he does something that can be decoded in two different ways and one way is horrid and the other is considerate, chose the finer way and believe in the best from him and not the worst as is the custom. Initially this will be difficult as it will be like rowing upstream against our tendency to believe the worst but keeping love alive requires shared admiration.

7. Fight fair and in a decisive fashion! Learn to fight sensibly without insults or malice. Become skilled at dealing with problems as they come and once they have been dealt with successfully you need to never (ever!) bring them up again. I know….it is soooo tempting to remind him of all his faults but this will do nothing for your love life. Keeping love alive requires that you have a forgiving heart and the ability to put behind you what has been forgiven.

8. All types of women to him! You have to be as the song goes “every woman to him”. Because of the central and critical role of intimacy you need to be able to explore what he wants (unless what he wants is distressing to you). You want his home life to be fulfilling not him guessing if he can get what he needs out there!