How NOT to Seduce Your Wife: 7 things that guys do that shuts off her sex drive

Intimacy in a relationship relates to feelings of closeness, both physically and emotionally. While women complain about a lack of emotional intimacy with their men, men often complain about a lack of physical intimacy with their women.

They want to know to increase their woman’s libido (sex drive) so that she is excited about having sex with him…

Without an understanding of how the female mind works, it is easy for men to misunderstand the connection between a woman’s emotional and physical components. In order for a woman to consistently feel good about the physical nature of her relationship, her emotional needs must be thoroughly met.

Men often do not understand this and, therefore, do not recognize the things that they do, which trigger a woman to turn off her intimate feelings.

(see the free report: “The 7 Seduction Mistakes” by CR James. Every guy should read it at least 3 times.)

The following are a few examples of things that guys do that shut off intimacy in their women:

Thing #1: Criticize Her

Constructive criticism is good, but when a man criticizes his woman in a destructive way (insulting her, complaining about her looks, putting her down in public, etc.) this is a surefire way to cause her to withhold intimacy.

A woman needs to feel like she is valued by her man and when he criticizes her in a mean way, she feels devalued and will begin to shut down emotional parts of herself needed for intimacy.

Thing #2: Betray Her Trust

Safety is important to women. A woman likes to feel like she can let her guard down around her mate without concern of him betraying her trust.

If she tells him sensitive things about her life or about what is on her heart, and he blabs that information to others, she will never fully trust him and this will affect the level of intimacy she allows herself to share with him.

Thing #3: Shun Her Affections

When a woman reaches out to be affectionate with her man and he abruptly puts her off because he is busy or otherwise distracted, she feels insulted, vulnerable and unloved. She also grows suspicious about why he does not respond to her.

She questions her attractiveness to him and she even questions his faithfulness. Later, when he is ready to share intimate time with her, it is unlikely that she will respond well because her feelings have been hurt and her mind is now distracted.

Thing #4: Take Her for Granted

When a man stops treating his woman like a gem and, instead, begins to treat her like she is nothing special, she will believe that he does not care in the way that he used to and she may begin to build walls that prohibit intimacy between them. If she is taken for granted and no special efforts are made toward her happiness, she becomes hurt and her feelings of intimacy begin to deflate.

Thing #5: Neglect Her

A woman enjoys spending quality time with her man. She enjoys talking with him, laughing with him and just being in his presence. If a man does not take time out for quality time with his woman, she is likely to feel neglected and cast aside. When she begins to feel this way, she will usually verbalize her need for more time. If a man ignores her pleas and does not make an effort to create room for quality time, her emotions may range from anger to depression to apathy; but she will almost certainly begin to shut down the intimate part of herself that she used to reserve for him.

Thing #6: Place Others Before Her

Every woman wants to feel like they are the most important person in the world to their man. However, if a man puts others ahead of her, she will not feel she is his top priority and this will affect her feelings of intimacy.

Thing #7: Be A Selfish Lover

A relationship that is completely one-sided leaves the other person feeling unfulfilled. If a man is only concerned with his interests and with the meeting of his own needs, without making an effort to meet his woman’s, she will not enjoy the relationship much and, little by little her intimacy will decrease until it finally stops.

This especially applies to physical intimacy. If a man is only concerned with his own physical pleasures and does not focus his efforts on pleasing his woman, eventually she will become disinterested and no longer care much about physical intimacy at all.

If you want to know how to seduce your wife, then you have to pay attention to all aspects of the female mind.